Stress is the sign of a restless mind. Agree?
Are you someone that has trouble calming your thoughts, worries, and feelings?
I have to raise my hand here! I struggle with this constantly.
I thrive in stress - and it does not make me feel good to write that - but it is true. My survival in chaos is a trauma response from my career as a prison guard. And I have been out of that career as long as I was in it - and I still struggle to release the stress that I seem to create! Here is where resiliency is an incredible thing. Although I struggle - I will never give up doing the things that I need to in order to create peace, calm, and an environment that snuffs out stress. Daily, I pay attention to my thoughts, my habits, and my emotions so that I can offer myself feedback.
Are there things that you are doing each day that is inviting stress? Is there something that you can do to help alleviate some of it?
You will need to spend some time exploring what helps you create calm, reduce stress, and keeps in the “flow”. I talk about flow all the time with my business coaching clients. One of the things that I promote to assist with stress - is a solid morning routine. My morning routine sets me up for the day, keeps my stress anxiety at bay, and creates a sense of peace. When I have a rough night and choose to sleep a little longer - I can almost guarantee that it will be a shot show kind of day!
I love to get up, make a coffee, sit in peace, read, write, and get in a quick workout. I spend about 10 minutes after that sorting out my day - chunking my time together to ensure that I can make time for things outside of work - like a walk with the dog or coffee with a friend (activities that I love - and allow me to de-stress).
As a mom, business owner, business/life coach, and project coordinator for non-profit things can get a little hectic at times. I can easily get overwhelmed with all the tasks.
There are a couple of things that I do that allow me to keep my negative stress under control.
Figuring out my day based on all the tasks that I need to complete. Once I figure out what my day looks like - I never add more to do the list. Sure there are urgent things that pop up and I have to roll with them. But for the most part, it gets added to the next day! Here’s what happens when you keep adding to your to-do list. YOU NEVER complete the to-do list. This erodes confidence which makes you feel crappy and will likely stress you the fuck out!
Spend some time outside. Studies show that spending time outside and physical activity is good for reducing stress. Benefits of being outdoors are:
Vitamin D. Research has shown that vitamin D might play an important role in regulating mood and warding off depression. Strengthen your immune system. Being outdoors can help to improve your immune system: As you are exposed to dirt, allergens, and more outdoors, your body becomes better equipped to handle those things later. Increase endorphins when you exercise. These endorphins interact with the receptors in your brain that reduce your perception of pain. Endorphins also trigger a positive feeling in the body, similar to that of morphine. I always include outdoor time in the day - unless it is -25 - then I curl up with a book or hit the treadmill.
I also don’t pack my schedule so tight that this is no room to breathe. I will book clients with 15min - 30 min breaks inbetween and I try to get an hour to eat and get outside. I also, love to move my locations from home to a coffee shop to keep it interesting - and not have to worry about the “home chores”. You know when the dryer is beeping, and you know that the dishwasher could be unloaded - I feel stressed just thinking about having to juggle it all!
***Another tip that I teach to my clients - write down your tasks for the day - and then write how long you think it will take you to do it. When I think about cleaning the kitchen - I think “gosh that will take forever - when in actuality - it takes about 10 mins*** When I look at the long list of emails - I write that one will take about 5 mins, this one about 10, and the others about 15mins. I block off an hour - and then am pleasantly surprised when it
There will always be days when I feel stressed or overwhelmed but I like to ensure that I create as many days as I can that don’t set that tone - then when I have a stressful day I can look forward and motor through because I know that tomorrow will be better.
What are some tricks, strategies, or things that you can implement to keep negative stress under control - and create peace and calm in your life?
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